Bad Things Happen.

Firstly, I want to wish everyone one of you a great month ahead. This is probably not the summer we expected but we’ll get through it.

I don’t have much to say today, just wanted to share my thoughts with you, I’ve had this on my chest for a while now, so yeah.

Bad Things Happen.

Bad things happen and will probably never stop happening, I’m beginning to think it’s part of the life cycle. At one point or the other, we’re going to face something we didn’t plan for, something that would break us.

I’m not here to tell you not to let out your emotions by crying or withdrawing for a bit, very far from that.

I just want you to know that no matter how bad the turn things take, there’s always a lesson life is trying to teach you.

So when going through a tough time, be open, allow yourself to learn find a blessing in the ‘curse’.

It’s definitely not going to be as easy as learning the alphabet, but it’ll go a long way.

And yeah, don’t narrow your mindset down to the ‘big’ things you can learn. It could be the little life guides like;

– Patience.

– Valuing relationships.

– Being more caring.

– Kindness.

– Learning to be happy or to forgive.

– Self discovery.

– And last but not the least, sometimes bad things happen to us because someone in the nearest future is going to need our story to survive, sometimes we go through stuff to become the symbol of strength and hope for others.

So don’t write yourself off.

Don’t write your future plans off because of the bad things that happen.

No matter how bad it may look, it’s a phase and just like any other phase, it’ll pass. So just hang in there.

You can take my word for it because honestly, I’ve had my fair share of bad stuff that turned out to be eye openers.

And lest I forget, if you ever find yourself hurting, reach out to someone. It’s not the easiest thing to do, but it’s necessary. It can be a sibling or a close friend, or even the lady at the coffee shop who is always polite to you, just find someone trust worthy, someone who wouldn’t belittle your emotions.

This was really short and random but I’ve had it in mind for some time now. I hope you found this helpful.

SELF ACCEPTANCE II.

Real Talk With Massie is back this week.

And we’re back with a continuation of the previous blog post on Self Acceptance, I sincerely hope you find this as helpful as you found the first part: https://thebetteryouth.home.blog/2020/05/17/self-acceptance-i/

Let’s get right into it;

Don’t Give Up.

Like I said in the previous blog, self acceptance involves accepting imperfection, accepting imperfection means making room for improvement and Improvement isn’t a one day thing, it’s a process.

Self acceptance is a journey. And just like every journey, it gets tiring sometimes but you must never give up.

Don’t give up on yourself. You’re doing great and you’ll get there.

Acceptance Isn’t Surrender.

Accepting that you have a imperfections doesn’t mean those imperfections have won. Don’t see self acceptance as:

Me – 0

My flaws – 1

Accepting you have flaws is actually the first step to improvement, the first step to making positive changes.

And the moment you understand this concept, self acceptance will become one step easier.

Forgive Yourself.

Have you ever done something so bad or out of place that when you got back into your closet you couldn’t stop beating yourself up about it.

Or better still, at some point in the past something bad happened and you felt like it was totally your fault and till date you haven’t been able to forgive yourself for it.

It’s normal, it happens.

But you have to forgive yourself, you have to let go of the guilt.

– Forgive yourself for stammering in public.

– Forgive yourself for forgetting the lyrics to that song during your band’s performance or for playing the wrong notes.

– Forgive yourself for always being so shy in public.

– Forgive yourself for having such a short temper.

It may take a while, but it’s necessary.

Forgiving yourself is just like getting closure, except this time, it’s with your flaws.

And one thing I know about getting closure is that it resolves conflict, marking the end of the conflict and signifying new beginnings.

So go ahead and forgive yourself.

Stay Positive.

Like earlier stated, self acceptance is a journey and like every journey it will get tiring.

On some days you’ll feel like giving up. All your efforts at improving yourself will look like a waste.

The best way to overcome those bad days is to remain positive. I’m not going to lie to you, it’s not always easy, but you just have to try.

Just remind yourself of how far you’ve come and how much of a great job you’re doing. Remind yourself that you’re an amazing person and that you can and will achieve your goal.

You could even create a mantra specially to help you out with the bad days.

Don’t ever lose your touch of positivity.

I hope this was helpful, don’t forget, self acceptance is a journey and you can get to your destination, Don’t Give Up.

Till next time.